The Dash

There is a date for when we are born and a date when we pass. In between that, there’s this dash. This dash is everything that happened in the life of that person. I have learned, it isn’t the size of the dash that matters, but what you do in that time frame that really counts. I have only spoken of one other person who made their dash count. But today, there is someone else. Layla.
    I didn’t know Layla and her family long. I used to volunteer at my children’s school, the same that Layla and her sister attended. I remember helping out with the Pre-k 4 class my 1st year there and in walks this twin girls with big bows, sassy shoes and big smiles to match.They were lovely girls and their family were just as sweet. After leaving the school to homeschool my kiddos, I kept up with Layla’s story on facebook. Today, I saw she went to be with the Lord. My heart breaks for her wonderful family and her many many friends.
    We all dreamed of doing great things and changing the world when we grew up. From being Doctors, teachers or even missionaries in the deep jungle spreading the gospel. But sometimes, a special person comes along and changes the world in just a few short years at a very young age..This person was Layla. She had so much LOVE, courage and strength. But most importantly, she had Jesus! So much love for Jesus was packed into this tiny person. You couldn’t help but notice, something was different about her.No matter what she faced or how bad she felt, she’d smile and talked about Jesus. No matter what her family faced or were told, they shared Jesus! Whether it was trails or celebration, setbacks or progression, Highs or the lows, they always shared Jesus and gave him the glory in everything. They showed they trusted him every step of the way. What amazing faith! 

    We will never know this side of Heaven just to what extent Layla changed the world. But i can assure you, the Lord used this tiny brave girl for his glory! She made a difference! She made her dash count. She changed this world! She showed the world Jesus! She helped those who will one day be diagnosed with DIPG. Because of her, one day a child will have a cure. Because of her fight, she will encourage others to fight. Because of her, people were made aware of DIPG. Because of her family sharing their faith in this battle, another parent will have the strength to make it another day for their child to face a hard road ahead. The ripple effect from her, her family and their journey has no end and we will never know just how far it went. 

    She is with the Lord now. Healed! Just as HE promised! She is walking the streets of gold or probably sitting in her pretty mansion just enjoying Heaven’s view. May the Lord hold tight to her family and bring them comfort.  May we never ever forget a spunky, brave, Jesus lovin’ little girl named Layla.

Is it Biblical or Man’s Traditions: Part 1: Ash Wednesday and Lent

Tomorrow, we will see people walking around with this weird grey looking cross on their foreheads. Some dont know what or why they do this. But most of us know what day it is, Ash Wednesday! There is one question I have, is this practice biblical or just man’s tradition?

The easy straight to the point answer is, No, this isn’t biblical! So lets see why.

    So what is Ash Wednesday and Lent? Ash Wednesday is done the day before Lent starts. People celebrate Ash Wednesday by going to church and having the priest or pastor place an ash shaped cross on their forehead. This has been described as a time to “clean your souls before Lent.” Lent is a 40 day (not including sundays for some. 46 days for others), where one fast from something for 40 days until Easter. This comes from Jesus fasting for 40 days before going to the cross. Ash Wednesday and Lent are mainly celebrated by Catholics. However, many  Non-dominations and other churches in the Christian faith have picked this practice up and have started to do it.

    Where in the Bible does it say we should do this? Well, it doesn’t. Actually, they have chosen to pick and choose from different bible verses to support their idea of Ash wednesday and Lent. The first one they use and normally say to you as they place the ash on your forehead is pulled from Genesis 3:19 KJV, “ for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.” Does this mean we walk around with Ash on our head in the shape of the cross? No. Some of the other bible verses they will use to justify this practice are, 2 Samuel 13:19, Esther 4:1, Job 2:8, Daniel 9:3. But if we use these verses as the reasoning for putting ash on our foreheads, like Esther for example, shouldn’t we also use dung like Esther did? But I don’t see people doing that. So, it seems they have pulled small pieces from the bible to fit and make people partake in Ash Wednesday and Lent. One verse used for celebrating Lent is Luke 5:33-35. But, anyone can read this and see it is used out of context. The verse is actually Jesus answering the Pharisee as to why his disciples don’t fast while others were. And to paraphrase, Jesus tells them there is no pointing to them fasting while he is there and  they are also too fast after he dies because he won’t be there. This does not tell us to fast for 40 days before Easter. 

Here are my thoughts on Ash Wednesday and Lent now that I have shown biblically we are not called to put an ash cross on our foreheads, nor fast from something for 40 days. It is yet again, another man made tradition. It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever for christians to be practicing Lent and ash Wednesday. None. Lets not forget that Ash wednesday follows Fat Tuesday. A day where people like to binge in all sorts of sins before having to “clean their souls’ on ash Wednesday.  Most people join in on this practice because those around them are doing it and because it makes them feel good as a person that they can “rid themselves of all their sins that have commited, get a start fresh and make it right with God” They give up trivial things in their life that doesn’t bring hardship or a struggle to where they have to lean on God. Nothing that brings them to their knees in prayer. Nothing. Then the church and the people take pictures and post about it all over social media.  

Are we too fast? Yes. If you want to fast as Jesus did, you can. Fasting is something we see many times in the Bible for many different reasons. But we are warned and told by Jesus in Matthew 6:16-18 kjv how we should fast “Moreover when ye fast, be not, as the hypocrites, of a sad countenance: for they disfigure their faces, that they may appear unto men too fast. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.  But thou, when thou fastest, anoint thine head, and wash thy face; That thou appear not unto men too fast, but unto thy Father which is in secret: and thy Father, which seeth in secret, shall reward thee openly.” 

We are also told in Matthew 6:5-8kjv by Jesus how we are to pray “And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.  But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.”

We can look in the Bible and see no one fasted for 40 days before Easter. Nor do we see them get ash crosses on their heads as a sign of cleansing and and “getting right with God.”  We shouldn’t wait for a certain time of year to fast, repent and pray. We should be repenting everyday and if we are to fast, do so in private without the whole world knowing what you are doing and the same goes with prayer. Shame on the churches for adapting a ritual that isn’t biblical at all and bringing it into the churches. All while having your members telling everyone what they are doing. Having a big ash cross on your forehead is definitely a Pharisee type of thing to do. You are showing everyone you practiced in Ash Wednesday and you’re probably going to participate in lent. Both go against scripture and what Jesus told us how we should handle those two things. And I choose to do what the Lord tells me in the Bible to do. Not a priest or preacher who tells me otherwise. So before you join in on the man made tradition, ask yourself if you want to do something that isn’t actually biblical. And if it isn’t biblical, why are you doing it?

There was Jesus

:Inspired by Zach Willliams song “There was Jesus”:

Through the abusive childhood, there was Jesus.
Through the bullies and ridicule, there was Jesus.
Through the teen years and the bad mistakes, there was Jesus.
Through the act of giving myself up fully to a man who’s name I don’t even remember, there was Jesus.
Through the miscarriages, there was Jesus.
Through failed relationships, there was Jesus.
Through the failed marriage, there was Jesus.
During my Brother’s suicide and the hurt that came, there was Jesus.
Through the cocaine, there was Jesus.
Through the mental and physical abusive relationships, there was Jesus.
Through the start up of my life again, there was Jesus.
Through the struggle with alcohol, there was Jesus.
Through sobriety, there was Jesus.
The night of my salvation, there was Jesus.
Through the rough patches in my marriage, there was Jesus.
Through the tears of failing, there was Jesus.
Through the depression, there is Jesus.
Through the hurt of losing friendships, there was Jesus.
Through hurt from family members, there was Jesus.
Through putting myself out there only to get hurt again, there was Jesus.
Through Church hurt, there was Jesus.
Through motherhood, there is Jesus.
Through the struggles, the tears, the setbacks, and the fears
Through the happiness, joy, and the moments I’ll remember for 100 years, THERE IS AND ALWAYS WILL BE JESUS!!!!


One of the most popular topics that comes up with Christians, probably top 5 right on up there with tithing, it drinking alcohol. I have watched Christians shredded each other over this topic, so I wanted to write about it and give my point of view on it. I am a recovering social alcoholic. Many people don’t know that I was one and how bad I struggled with drinking. But because of the Lord, I have been sober since 2015. So I feel like I can come at this topic with a bit more of understanding of what the bible says and I can sort of be in the middle of those who drink and those who have never drank. If you are a Christian who drinks, please read this with an open mind and please don’t see this as an attack or “I’m a better Christian than you (holier than thou type of deal).

  1. “But Jesus turned water into wine and drank wine.” This is the go to defense many Christians like to use. My thoughts on that is this:  He also cast out devils, made the lame walk, brought the dead back to life and fasted for 40 days and 40 nights, but nobody is doing any of that. But let’s hold tight to Jesus drank wine. So why do we jump straight to the whole Jesus drank wine as an excuse for us to? Let’s be honest, it is an excuse to do something that your flesh wants to do. We are told many times in the bible to be sober minded, or to be sober and vigilant. I believe when we are told to be sober, it’s talking about more than just alcohol, but since this is about drinking, let’s stick to that side of it. So, when do we stop being sober? One beer? One Shot? One bottle? One sip. Yes, one sip and you are no longer sober. “But one sip never hurt anything.” Well you apparently have never been an alcoholic or someone who knows an alcoholic. One sip has torn families and people apart. No one became an alcoholic or relapsed by downing a bottle of whiskey, no it started with one sip. A lot of bad choices come from just one sip. It also makes us say things we normally wouldn’t say, which can also break relationships up.
  2. Many people turn to alcohol when they feel they need to fill a void, something that is missing or to forget a problem you’re having. But, the answer to that won’t be found at the bottom of a whiskey bottle or beer bottle, whatever your poison of choice. You will wake up in the morning with the same problem and whatever was missing is still missing except now you also have a bad hangover to go along with it.  There is something can fill that void your feeling, that missing piece, and that is Jesus, plain and simple. Jesus and Jesus alone.
  3. It hurts us as Christians. We should be different from the world. How do we stand out if we look exactly like the world? It tarnishes your testimony. It really does, which is what satan wants.  Drinking can also hurts your brother and sisters in Christ and also a lost person. You never know what someone is struggling with and you could be a stumbling block for them.  I want people to know that they can come to me with their problems or addictions and know that I am not going to give advice and then turn around and go drink. I don’t want anyone to see me a “do as I say not as I do” type of Christian. You never know when someone is going to come to you needing help or advice. You want to make sure you give clear sober minded advice and not drunk advice.

So sure you can use the reason of Jesus drank wine and we can go back and forth about it. But I ask for you to dig a little deeper into your bible and pray about it. In the New Testament, sober is used 15 times, 5 of those times being in Titus alone. We are to teach the younger Christians (not age but according to their walk) and we are to be examples to others. Our children and other people’s children are looking up to us. We need to start really looking at what we do. I always look at things this way when I need to figure if something is right or wrong. This covers drinks, actives, books, t.v. shows/movies, dress, you get the point. I ask myself most of these 7 questions:

  • Does it grow me as a Christian?
  • Does it grow my relationship with Jesus or does it take away from that?
  • Does it grow and help me as a wife and mother?
  • Would I do it with Jesus sitting next to me?
  • What does the bible say about it?
  • Does it go against what I believe?
  • Does it bring glory to the Lord?


Let’s be sober. Let’s be aware. Satan is looking to have us slip up and not be on guard. So if you are a Christian who drinks, please take these points into consideration and the bible verses below.

Be Blessed and Grow in the Lord,


Bible Verses:

2 Cor. 5:13, 1 Thes 5:6-8, 1 Tim 3:2,11, Titus 1:8, Titus 2:2-6,12, 1 Peter 4:7, 5:8, Eph 5:18